What are the qualities of a real woman?

Would you be able to define them if you were asked?

Staggering divorce statistics and a number of single-parent households make it more apparent than ever that men and women alike are having a difficult time finding high-quality partners.

Since I’ve been receiving some amazing feedback and comments on 10 Qualities Of A Real Man, I’ve decided to flip the script and discuss some of the many great attributes possessed by strong and healthy women.

Part of being a great man is recognizing the value in a great woman. 

Whether dating or married your personal life can be greatly improved by looking for or appreciating these qualities.

Remember –  attraction and compatibility are different subjects in themselves, and relevant to the individual.

You’re not going to find anything about X color hair or Y type of body here, but you will learn that there are quite a few universal qualities that are attractive to just about everyone (outside of those with severe internal problems – leeches, parasites, users and abusers).

10 Qualities Of  A Real Woman

There are many similarities here to what you’d find in a great man.  The qualities themselves aren’t gender specific, but the intricacies of them can be.

A list containing great qualities a real woman can go on and on, but here are a solid ten that mostly anyone can appreciate and respect.

1)  A Real Woman Is Confident

She is happy with herself and her own abilities.  She appreciates who she is as an individual, embraces her femininity and is proud to be a woman.

2)  A Real Woman Is Honest And Upfront

She recognizes the destructiveness behind undisclosed expectations.  She’s straight forward and respectful about setting boundaries and the tempo of her relationships early on.

3)  A Real Woman Has A Healthy Handle On Her Emotions

She knows it’s OK to feel down, bummed out, or really shitty that one week out of the month, but more importantly she knows how to weather the storm correctly.  If there are any shortfalls on the emotional front she recognizes them and adjusts accordingly.

4)  A Real Woman Is Strong And Independent

She is determined, driven and able to accomplish great feats.  Her ability to be so strong is derived from her own knowledge, intuition and ambition.

5)  A Real Woman Has Patience

For herself and those around her she knows how to play it cool.  In the face of adversity she is able to tap the proper resources to conquer any problem, instead of just giving up.

6)  A Real Woman Shares The Right Amount Of Drama

She has the right amount of drama to share with her man.  Positive and negative.  A great man will be always be there for her (to listen and understand), but anything above and beyond a certain threshold she know’s to dish with her girlfriend’s and not with him.

7)  A Real Woman Has A Defined Purpose 

Whether personally or professionally, she has great goals and desires.  She knows that with the right amount of inspiration and motivation anything is possible and is willing to do what it takes to make her dreams a reality.

8)  A Real Woman Is Secure

She’s comfortable in her own skin.  Jealousy, doubt and fear go out the window because she is confident in herself and her choice in a partner – as well as her partners choice in her.

9)  A Real Woman Is There

She represents a strong link in the chain that holds those close to her together.  She embraces the many roles she plays and is actively present as a mother, wife, girlfriend and friend.  When she’s needed the most, she is there.

10)  A Real Woman Values A Real Man

She appreciates and respects the value and worth of the men in her life.  She knows that part of being a great woman is recognizing and embracing the qualities of a great man.  She does not need a man in her life to be happy, but if she has one she stands by him.  She believes in his purpose and who he is – which makes going in the same direction with him that much easier.

A great routine to get into is an honest evaluation what you want out of partner and if you are also a good match with what you are looking for.

This list can be used as a great starting point but only you are able to determine the particulars and unique elements that work for you.  There are many more than just 10 qualities to a real woman and it’s up to you to determine which are most important.

Also, remember to take a hard look at what you want from yourself.  It is very indicative of what you will move on to acquire in your life. 

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