What I know for sure is that it takes courage and a lot of self-confidence to be yourself when meeting someone for the first time, and especially if you’re newly dating.
My husband and I met at a young age on the college scene. As insane as that time period was, there was one particular trait that I picked up on right away about my guy that was surprisingly uncommon.
His personality was virtually the same whether he was hanging out with the guys, or if we were spending time together one on one. This was a huge sign to me that I was seeing the real deal.
I don’t think I have to tell you how nutty a large group of guys all living under one roof can get.
Despite the fun and madness, if my husband didn’t want to do something he didn’t do it, plain and simple. It didn’t matter who was asking.
He knew who he was and he wasn’t afraid to be himself.
It’s Good to Be Yourself
Of course, everyone wants to fit in, but a guy who knows how to stand his ground and has the confidence to be himself no matter who is in his company is a very sexy thing!
If I were to advise a woman on dating I would say to watch how your guy is around his friends, his family, and with you. Are there big discrepancies in personality?
The same goes the other way around; my advice to guys is to have the courage to be yourself, all the time. Be honest with who you are and what you feel. Being honest and authentic trumps agreeability any day of the week in my book.
Although we all experience personal growth and maturing, at the end of the day we are who we are, and knowing that the person you are interested in is the real deal is priceless. After all, the only person we can ever really change is ourselves.
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