With a little over 10 years of marriage under my belt there is one thing I’ve learned to be incredibly important when it comes to communicating with your spouse- ask for what you need or want in an honest, straightforward approach.
It is so easy to fall into the trap of trying to manipulate your partner or play games to get what you want. However, that type of approach creates bad energy between you.
Let’s face it; no one likes to be manipulated, not only in marriage but in any relationship.
So why do we play games?
I think sometimes we think it is easier than just asking for what we want or need.
Our fear of getting rejected and not being in control takes over and we try to get our way in a round-about, less than desirable fashion.
Better to ask directly and accept that you may not get the answer you want, than to try to force the other person to do what you want through manipulation.
Here’s the good news-
Although you will not always receive the answer you’re hoping for using the straightforward approach; honesty creates positive energy in a relationship.
In love you care about your partner’s needs and wants and many times will react positively to something that is important to your spouse.
How to Stop Playing Games
Accept you cannot control the outcome. Sometimes the only thing you can do is set the example and choose your reaction but I think you’ll find, more often than not, when honesty and openness are on your side you’ll come out way ahead.
Want to know how to stop playing games? The next time your spouse does something that drives you absolutely crazy like leaves laundry all over the floor or toothpaste crusted in the sink, tell them in an honest straightforward way why it is important to you.
Let them know this because you appreciate your home and life together more when you feel comfortable in the space.
Figure out why it is you want what you want and make your requests with honest direct communication.
Honesty and love go hand-in-hand.
Honesty creates trust and is the basis of a healthy relationship.
To happy, healthy relationships!
With love- Wendy Irene
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